Strictly written just so I can vent...
The hubby and I were together for almost 6 years before we got married. Got engaged at around 5 1/2 years, had a 4 1/2 month engagement and got married about a month and a half before our 6 year anniversary. For about 3-4 years, were were constantly asked "when are you getting married?" "are you ever going to get married?" "so when's the big day going to be?"
We got these questions long before we ever got engaged. Frustrating? Yes.
Maybe like a month after we got married, was the first time the topic of pregnancy came up. "When am I going to get more great-grandchildren?" "When you guys going to have a baby?" "Do you plan on ever having children??"
It just gets frustrating. Over & over again.
I know everyone who asks is just curious because they are excited for us to have kids, but holy crap. We will have a baby when God chooses us to have a baby. It's obvious it's not right now. Don't worry, we will tell people when we are pregnant, but now is not the time.
When will we get pregnant, who knows. When the time is right. Don't even ask when we are planning. It's not up to us to plan. Being ready isn't even a legitimate question. Is anyone ever truly ready for a child? Probably, but they do change your whole world. Depends on each individual couple. Maybe someday I will share more details on here, maybe not. I don't know. But for right now, the time isn't right for us and that is OK.
We will not have a baby when other people want us to, or because other people want us to. It will be because God wants us to. Imagine that.
Just watch out, I might hit the next person who asks. It's getting close to that point. Nothing personal, it will just be an involuntary reaction to what my mind has been preparing for.
This is not directed to any one person in particular, just what has been happening over the past year and a half. Are there any other girls out there that are with me?